Welcome. I’m sorry you have cause to look at this page. Early, acute grief can be so bewildering - your brain and body are desperately trying to learn this new unfortunate reality. You may have had other losses in your life that you did not have to grief, or were not able to grieve. And yet now you may be trying to learn a new vocabulary of grieving, a new way of being. What does it mean to “process” a loss? Or feel feelings? What is normal grieving?

I am not a clinician or grief counselor - I am a griever and a researcher. As such, I’ve collected a list of books, podcasts, and websites I have found helpful in my own grief journey and shared them the Grief Resources page. I also provide links to the essays I’ve written and published in other venues about my own loss experiences. I’ve found grief podcasts particularly helpful, as hearing about others’ experiences helps me gather potential “grieving tools” that I may want to add to my own toolbox. I often find the most proximate experiences most helpful to learn from (for me, that’s someone whose father died suddenly, while they were also a parent to a young child). I do my best to ignore “shoulds” and quickly discard what doesn’t resonate for me, in this particular season of life. I hope you can be gentle with yourself.