Resources for grieving

Workbooks/journals for grief

• How to Carry what Can't be Fixed: a Journal for Grief by Megan Devine (great for processing acute grief)

• The Modern Loss Handbook

Books about grieving and loss

• Read This Till You Believe It by M.H. Clark

• It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine (great for acute grief)

• The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O’Connor (neuroscientist)

• Resilient Grieving by Lucy Hone

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

Podcasts

I used these as if I were listening in on grief groups while hiking…and could skip around to find the most proximate experiences. I’ve included specific episodes I save and re-listen to. Many speakers appear on multiple podcasts, so if you find a host you like, look at their library of episodes.

• Its ok that you’re not ok

  • 7 Deadly Sins and Crown of Sadness

  • Can we make this place beautify with Maggie Smith

  • Real Self Care with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin

  • Is it time to retire the stages of grief

  • Rage Becomes Her with Soraya Chemaly

• The Dougy Center: Grief Out Loud (they specialize in young adults)

  • I Took a Year off to Grief - Rebecca Feinglos & GrieveLeave

  • Superhero Grief - Dr. Jill Harrington

  • Laurel Braitman Learns to Feel her Feelings

  • podcast #178 on the early days of grief and survivors guilt

  • Podcast #188 with Hope Edelman about the concept of (and her book called) AfterGrief

  • Podcast #239 with the founders of website & book What’s your Grief

• How to deal with Grief and Trauma

  • Episode #49 Review of Trauma and Grief Modalities

• Grief is my Side Hustle (trauma counselor who developed PTSD after her mother died)

  • Susan Kendal: Surviving Compound Grief and Loss

  • Angela Morris: Grief and Neurodivergence

  • Cyndie Spiegel: Microjoys and Finding Hope when Life is Not Ok

  • Addison Brasil: Author of First Year of Grief Club

  • Melissa Lunardini: Help Text Chief Bereavement Officer

  • Dr. Lisa Shulman: The Brain Science of Loss

  • Katie Reilly: Writing through Double Parent Loss

• Grief is a Sneaky B!tch

  • Grief, Stress and Rituals

  • Mary-Frances O’Connor: This is your Brain on Grief

  • Rabbi Steve Leder: For you when I’m Gone

• Griefcast (British comedienne whose father died of cancer at 15)

  • Katherine May

  • Amanda Palmer

• Grief, Collected - series by the Mash-Up Americans

  • Intro episode on Grief Out Loud

• The Grief Coach

• Dead Parent Club: Physical Symptoms of Grief with Meghan Riordan Jarvis

• Moms don’t have time to Grieve: Compounded Grief and How we Survive

• GeriPal podcast

  • Loss, Grief and Wellness Debriefings

  • cultural shifts in end of life care

  • with BJ Miller on Living with Death

• Endwell Take10 “conference” 2020.endwellproject.org.

Essays

• Becoming Grief-Informed by Schuurman, D. L., & Mitchell, M. B

Websites

• The Dougy Center

• Refuge in Grief

• What’s your Grief

• Modern Loss

• Grief Support Network

Books for kids about grieving and loss

• The Invisible String

• The Rabbit Listened

• The Goodbye Book

• City Dog, Country Frog

Pandemic-related articles

• Permission to grieve even the small losses of the pandemic

• Article about Diane Meier and the trauma of the pandemic

• In “Dear Memory,” Chang experiments with the grammar of loss, addressing letters to those who will never respond, and finding meaning in their silence.

A few of my essays relevant to grief

• Making Space for Grief in Academia, JAMA

  • Version in Stat News with colleagues

• The Hidden Curriculum of Hospice: Die Fast, Not Slow, Health Affairs; podcast version

• Live Discharge from Hospice Isn’t Graduating - It’s Getting Expelled, JAGS

• Article about grief I contributed to

Other tips

My mom blogged about her experiencing caring for my stepfather as he lived and died with Multiple Systems Atrophy, and continues to sporadically but eloquently post about her grief experience at The Artful Caregiver

A friend of my father’s made a YouTube video of him, so I can hear his voice; I highly recommend getting videos of your living loved ones.