Resources for Grieving

Note: this is a replication of a page under the theme of Grief

Books about grieving and loss

• Read This Till You Believe It by M.H. Clark

• It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine (great for acute grief)

• How to Carry what Can't be Fixed: a Journal for Grief by Megan Devine (great for processing acute grief)

• The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O’Connor (neuroscientist)

• Resilient Grieving by Lucy Hone

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

• Other books on grieving and/or trauma

Podcasts

I used these as if I were listening in on grief groups while hiking…and could skip around to find the most proximate experiences

• Griefcast (British comedienne whose father died of cancer at 15)

• The Dougy Center: Grief Out Loud (they specialize in young adults)

  • Episode 174 has nice ideas for navigating grief during the pandemic holidays

  • episode 171 with BJ Miller has a nice discussion of what happens when our personal grief interacts with our professional jobs.

  • podcast #178 on the early days of grief and survivors guilt

  • Podcast #188 with Hope Edelman about the concept of (and her book called) AfterGrief

  • Podcast #239 with the founders of website & book What’s your Grief

• Grief is my Side Hustle (trauma counselor who developed PTSD after her mother died)

  • Episode #83 with Melissa Lunardini: Help Text Chief Bereavement Officer

• Grief, Collected - series by the Mash-Up Americans

  • Intro episode on Grief Out Loud

• RadioLab: The Queen of Dying

• Great grief

• GeriPal podcast

  • cultural shifts in end of life care

  • with BJ Miller on Living with Death

• Endwell Take10 “conference” 2020.endwellproject.org.

Websites

• The Dougy Center

• Refuge in Grief

• What’s your Grief

• Modern Loss

• Grief Support Network

Books for kids about grieving and loss

• The Invisible String

• The Rabbit Listened

• The Goodbye Book

• City Dog, Country Frog

Essays and Articles

• The dual process model of grief (for those people where the “stages” model makes them feel like they are doing it wrong")

• Becoming Grief-Informed by Schuurman, D. L., & Mitchell, M. B

• The labor of grieving, by Stacy Torres

• The consequences of unacknowledged grief in the workplace, by Meghan Riordan Jarvis - and associated TedX talk

• Permission to grieve even the small losses of the pandemic

• Article about Diane Meier and the trauma of the pandemic

• In “Dear Memory,” Chang experiments with the grammar of loss, addressing letters to those who will never respond, and finding meaning in their silence.

A few of my essays relevant to grief

• Making Space for Grief in Academia, JAMA

  • Version in Stat News with colleagues

• The Hidden Curriculum of Hospice: Die Fast, Not Slow, Health Affairs; podcast version

• Live Discharge from Hospice Isn’t Graduating - It’s Getting Expelled, JAGS

• Article about grief I contributed to

Other tips

My mom blogged about her experiencing caring for my stepfather as he lived and died with Multiple Systems Atrophy, and continues to sporadically but eloquently post about her grief experience at The Artful Caregiver

A friend of my father’s made a YouTube video of him, so I can hear his voice; I highly recommend getting videos of your living loved ones.